Women empowering women!

I am pleased to serve as a panelist for “Blood Sweat & Heels,” a luncheon with the sole purpose of educating and empowering women.

I am a staunch believer in supporting one another, because without a guiding voice and attentive ear,  we can not achieve true success. We may advance in our careers, but without someone who looks like us and shares many of our experiences cheering us on the world becomes a lonely place.

I am pleased to say that I have had and continue to have cheerleaders who not only congratulate me on the wins, but wipe my tears and nicely offer a kick in the rear when needed.

If you value the bond of sisterhood and are available join us on October 14th at the Wyndham Cleveland and empower yourself and someone else.

Bedford Hts. Mayor Fletcher Berger featured panelist this Friday

Panel seeks to bring values and morals into the home to combat violence in the community


Cleveland, OH – The violence plaguing Northeast Ohio has prompted many organizations into action and Messiah International Ministries, a local church will host a Panel discussion on “Real, Deep, Relationships” this Friday, October 2, 2015, at 7 p.m. as part of these efforts.

Apostle Phyllis Fosh-Carter, founder of the “Journey to the Well Experience” ministry at Messiah International Ministries said of the discussion, “This is an opportunity to prayerfully bring more values and morals into the homes to aid in combating the violence in the community.”

The program, open to everyone, will address many issues including Building Trust, Godly Relationship Foundations, Healing from Past Hurts and Communication. To facilitate this dialogue, the assembled  panel  includes Bedford Hts. Mayor Fletcher Berger; Pastor Barbara Dillard and Evangelist Tracy Goodlow of Church of the Living God; Apostle Rodney and Sharon Tucker of Kingdom Life Ministries; Karyn Buggs a Training and Development Coach as well as Apostles Harold and Phyllis Carter.

Further explaining her goals Apostle Carter said, “We are giving the community the knowledge and tools to be empowered and have a better attitude as citizens.”

WHO:      Mayor Fletcher Berger of Bedford Hts., OH,  Apostles Harold & Phyllis Carter,                      Pastors of Messiah International Ministries    

WHAT:     Journey to the Well Experience, a Panel Discussion

WHERE:   Messiah International Ministries, 98 Center Rd., Bedford, Ohio 44146

WHEN:      Friday, October 2, 2015 @ 7:00 p.m.


Still Missing You

It’s been a year and I still find myself picking up the telephone to call you about something outrageous I just heard, saw or read. I have gone as far as picking up the telephone and starting to dial before something, and sometimes I really think it’s you giving me a look like – O. K. get it together I’m not there.
The tears have subsided although today they were trying hard to appear. When I get sad I think about some of the happier times when we were doubled over with laughter and I say to myself “I miss you, but you’re in a better place.”
As I’m writing this I can’t help but think of the time we went on the Haunted Hayride – that was a blast, especially the loud protests from Keith!
Your family placed an “In Memoriam” ad in the paper today – you would have liked it. It was probably one of your best pictures albeit not one of the “glamour” shots, but the message was so fitting – you are missed by so many and that’s a good thing because it means you had a positive impact on the many lives you touched.
If Heaven is anything like we imagine it, I’m sure you’re busy working on some project with Darryl and Gerald or maybe you’ve joined John in spreading the good news in Heaven.
You know, when I think about it – 2006-2007 wasn’t a good year for those of us left here on earth with respect to loosing those we loved and/or admired. When I think about it, within the span of about what – nine months I experienced the deaths of a number of people. I remember when Gerald died – you were sick, but at that time I couldn’t even imagine that two short months later you, too would be gone. When I heard the news I picked up the phone and called you and you confirmed that it was indeed true.
While you’re up there keeping an eye on things down here, pay special attention over the next couple of months as we try to pull this wedding together. I’ve got to get the invitations just right for Thed and Billy so send me some inspiration.
Missing you, my sister, friend.

Farewell my friend, my sister – I’ll miss you!

I’ll See You On the Other Side

Spankee, I woke up this morning around 3:30 a.m. with an uncontrollable cough. It wasn’t hot, the normal cause for these fits, but it persisted for about a half hour before I could return to sleep. Of course I then overslept and decided I’d take the day off. I was a little congested so I took some Sudafed Sinus and went back to sleep around 8 a.m.
I didn’t know at the time, but around the time I was fighting the cough you were making your transition. You were finally at peace and the suffering had ended.
So I ask, “Were you saying goodbye, letting me know that you were now totally at peace?” I know you can’t answer, but I am going to take this as a sign, and say that you were sending me your positive thoughts because that’s the type of person you are.
Really though, I think it was God at work. See He knew I was having difficulty coming to terms with the fact that your time on earth was coming much sooner than anyone expected.
Just so you’ll know, I’m holding up pretty good. I know that you are in a better place and that your spirit and the memories of our sisterhood will always be with me, but it’s hard already not being able to pick up the phone and run something by you.
Poochie and I were sitting around reminiscing today and we kept saying how 38 years is so young, but as I think back over the last few years I would have to say you achieved a number of your dreams and your experienced a lot that many of us will never have the opportunity to enjoy.
Rest easy my Sister, my friend, and I’ll see you on the other side.

How do you define a happy marriage?

During a recent conversation with a 20ish young man I suggested that he needed to begin looking to the future. Staring at me blankly he questioned, “What do you mean. I’m always looking and planning for the future. If you’re talking about marriage – that’s out. I can’t name three happy marriages.”
I was left to ponder the thought of what defines a happy marriage from an outsiders perspective and do I know three happily married couples. I do know more than three couples that I would consider happily married, but does that mean that they are effervescently bubbly, always pawing one another, groping and kissing? No, but their interactions are usually loving and exhibit an overall affection for one another.
That is not to say that at some point in their relationship they have not hit a rough patch. I would say that is what a marriage and any serious committed relationship does. You have good times and bad times and pray the good outweighs the bad.
You may roll over one day and look at the person laying next to you and wonder “How did I get here?” Because on that particular day the person you have vowed your life to has taken you to a place you don’t want to be and you are not very happy with them. This condition may persist for a day, two and maybe even a week or more.
However, at the end of the day if LOVE is what brought you together you will roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty as you work to rectify the problems.
What are your thoughts? Do you know how to define a happy marriage?